The designer and model said in an interview with “StarHit”, as she tries to keep a great relationship in the family, despite the conflicts. For nine years, Inna and Yuri Zhirkova live in perfect harmony and they have three children.
Relationship Inna and Yuri Jerkovich fans consider ideal. For nine years of marriage, the owner of Atelier – brand MiloMilo by Inna Zhirkova, the model, and the Russians demonstrate a complete idyll. The couple has three children – eight-year-old son, Dimitri, six-year-old daughter, Milan, and the youngest child Daniel appeared in September last year. Inna spoke about how she manages to maintain a wonderful relationship with your spouse and how smooths out conflict.
Inna, you and your spouse Yury create the impression of a perfect family. But what you don’t see your fans? Do you have disputes and conflicts?
Of course, the quarrel we have with Yuri there, and quite often. But never that we bear a grudge for a long time. Fighting over some trifles. —
What differences arise?
Every little thing. Elementary I can put in somewhere and forget thing. The children all scattered, I clean them and just sometimes can’t remember where everything is. Or, for example, might fight, when I make Yure comments driving, ask him to slow down. It flashes, says: “Then you get behind the wheel”, knowing full well that I don’t drive the car. In matters of education the Jura allows more children than I do. Of course, I understand that he spends less time with them, so he wants to give them more joy – allows a lot of sweets, give them the iPad. The children know that I am more strict, and the Pope allows them more.
Who first comes to reconciliation after conflict?
I have is this: if I really hurt, I can, sitting in another room, write Jure a message to speak. The main thing is to listen to each other quietly and not interrupt. But in fights I don’t focus, you know that we will still be together. Often the conflict just go away. If something happened, and we were going somewhere together to go, I certainly won’t say “I’m not going anywhere, we weren’t talking”. Know all this stuff, which are not worth paying attention to. Jura, in principle, never feels guilty. It does not come with flowers to apologize. He rarely gives them to me even on holidays.—
Are you not upset over this? Maybe he was trying to hint?
We already have such relations that I can not hinting, and speak directly, I need. At first I was worried, but now absolutely okay with it. Yura said that happiness is not in colors. Yes, and I understand that he is in anything I will have I will have what I want. I refer to the colors differently- remember these moments.
Do you often turn to friends when there are any problems?
No, we talk on neutral topics, it is rare that my friends and I met to discuss what is happening in families. In many matters, I always do as she decided to listen to the opinion of her husband. If I can’t solve, of course, I have many friends and acquaintances who can help me. —
Were there cases, when one of the friends let you down, who do you become discouraged?
Of course, there are those that stopped to chat. But I always forgive, absolutely calm attitude, because it’s life and these situations can not be avoided.—
You’re a very close relationship with Yulia the baranouskaya. Were there times when you used to drop everything to come to the aid of her friend?
I flew to London when she needed support, then she lived long enough with us. When needed, tried to invite her to different events that she had stayed home. Now, we communicate less, it just happened -I live in St. Petersburg, but we always meet if I come to Moscow.
As it is now you live in Saint-Petersburg? The kids like it?
We rented an apartment in a good area, away from the hustle and bustle. I was worried about school for her son, how he will get along with new classmates, with other teachers. But my fears were in vain – all is well. I was so surprise that children understand – dad’s moving, and we have to go after him. Of course, the kids miss Moscow, according to friends who stayed there. Dima’s birthday we celebrated in Moscow, so he invited his friends. —
It is now surprise the kids?
I am amazed that time flies so quickly. It’s nice that with them becomes much easier. I find it easier when the three of us than I alone with Danya. Dima and Milana so love it, that help me with everything! As they grow older they are starting to open up as a person, and they have their own opinions and desires. Milan recently asked to the dance. And she loves them. I encourage it. Want, of course, that she was engaged in acting – she has powers. Puts different scenes. But, of course, let her choose what to do. He loves football. For the sake of training will make faster lessons. With Yuri they spend time on the football field. Don’t know if I’d go in his father’s footsteps, but now for me most importantly, his eyes lit up. In school like mathematics, he loves her, does the job quickly. But the kids always come to us with questions if something is not clear.
Children as they grow up, ask awkward questions?
The only uncomfortable issue was about Dan. “Mommy, my tummy was Dan, and how he got there?” “They helped” – and “the Doctors cut the belly? But he’s safe!” Before the parents could laugh it off, found the children in the cabbage, now such explanations do not pass. —
Not so long ago you in the third time became a mother. As it is now appreciate your figure?
After the third confinement is difficult to say what the figure was completely satisfied. I have now not much time for myself. I don’t go to the gym or a treatment in the salon. I have a few extra pounds, but I was very confused. Old house to make wraps, baths. Salon is just no time. Dima and Milana at different times of the classes, plus Dan. But I did not bother. I like that Peter I all the time with her husband and children. Moscow always had worries about the Studio. Can’t say that I myself started, I just know that I feel comfortable, for example, make a hair mask at home, to paint the nails than spend two hours in the salon.—
They say that after the birth of children in the relationship with your spouse there is a lull, there is a certain chill. Did you have is?
The first month, anyway, though trying the attention of the husband to pay, but I understand that the child is all-consuming. Day and night you’re only with them fully belong to him. Some are so afraid of having children because I think that will not be able to go anywhere, the wife will stay home with dirty hair and only take care of the baby. Yura wanted to have children, and understand that they will not grow, they need attention. I was lucky that it was not necessary to explain it.
Have you ever had a crisis in the relationship and how you have overcome it?
I’ve read so much and heard about the crisis in relations, but it bypasses us. I think the main thing is trust, respect and love. We have this, we were jealous to madness. Yura I can safely let go with friends somewhere, I 100 percent trust him, too. Maybe it’s because we always have in life is something new, the birth of children, something changed in our relationship, strengthened them. Maybe the distance makes our Union stronger. Before we flew together, and now he is suffering school. For many years we have with Yuri truly kindred spirits. —
What would you not forgive your spouse?
Deception, betrayal, treason. But to me it is difficult to say for sure, no one knows how life will turn.Especially when children grow up and the priority of the family. Probably every relationship could be saved, feeling my heart what to do.