For 24-year-old wife of a famous football player this year was a real challenge. The death of the Pope, the birth of first child, depression, the search for strength to return to life… In an exclusive interview with “StarHit” the young mother spoke about the quarrels with her husband Alexander Kerzhakov, the child’s upbringing and how she managed to accept the loss of a loved one.
Milan recently you flew to rest in the Arab Emirates. One?
Yes. You know how weird that sounds, but I am so exhausted that the vacation I needed. First flew one, but impressions are excellent: managed to switch off, alone, to recover and sleep. Five days I was enough to gain strength and to get back to work.
Your active (working in the charity Fund of Alexander Kerzhakov “Star children,” restaurant management “Guli Suli”) very time-consuming. Who is the child?
I will not hide: we have a nanny who lives with us. Otherwise it would be simply impossible. I also grew up with a nanny, the parents were always busy, had an active social life.
You are in control of the nanny or fully entrusted her with the upbringing of the child?
I believe that a person who has worked for many years with young children, the experience is much more than I have. So she taught me some things than I am. For me the main thing that the child was neat and tidy, ironed, fed. More important, of course, that person was decent: not drink, not beat, do not steal.—
What were the precedents?
We have been through so much that all was. Previous nanny turned out to be stolen. You come home tired, exhausted, put the earrings anywhere, and then they just… disappear. Everything comes with experience, so now the valuables are out, and put the camera.—
If it turns out to give sufficient attention to the son?
She works hard for the past two weeks. I often get home when Artemy sleeping, leaving early morning. While my “family schedule” it’s kind of ragged, but very important for me to develop as a person – along with motherhood. Weekend as it turns out, of course, try to spend together at home. Son is now eight months, but in our house it was taken out only once. —
Disputes with Sasha about raising Artemia does not occur?
It is too early to talk about it. As for some of the propensities of the son… That he likes – is not yet clear. I will support his every desire: be it sports or business. You just have to watch and to see some clear ability.—
First steps are already doing?
Yes! It is generally very early for his age, but he started to get up and try to walk. Now still teething, so we have a hectic period. In General, I don’t think Artem is a problem child. Recently was the first photo shoot, and he got through, like, he even liked it.
Milan, for you in motherhood is the most difficult?
Not easy to get up at night. We with Artem next room, so I Wake up. In General, it would be wrong to say that experience any special difficulty, because we do have a bit of help.
What do you like most about this period?
The fact that all these events (the Pope’s death shortly before birth. – Ed.) I have a completely disconnected understanding of what I’m about to become a mother. The realization came months four. The first time I couldn’t even calmly approach the child. Now I’m looking at the first pictures of Artemis and it is current. And see how he grows. I’m very curious to watch the changes in facial features. Do I look like? It is not yet clear. Although the baby when falling asleep, puts one leg over the other. I’m just doing. So interesting! —
Up to what point did you breastfeed?
Do not fed. Because of the strong stress that I experienced in connection with the loss of his father, was did not to anything. I gave birth six days after the departure of the Pope. —
As was quickly back in shape?
I eat very little. Can’t tell you what to eat properly, just in very small amounts. I have not been in training yet at this time. During pregnancy I ate like a fish, so I gained 26 pounds! On the back of strong stress immediately lost about 15 and the rest went by itself. —
You had two plastic surgery…
Perhaps this was influenced by children’s complexes. I didn’t like my looks, and I have done rhinoplasty. After the birth of a child pulled the chest. I treat the plastic positive and I don’t understand why for some it is taboo. Sasha is in this respect conservative people, but there are things that, in my opinion, just need to adjust.
Apparently, you and Sasha see each other not so often. How are your meetings?
We keep in touch. Often the work of the charity Foundation, a lot of nuances have to discuss. Sasha doesn’t like surprises, so I warn him in advance. My favorite hobby is spending time together at home. —
After a quarrel who is going to put up first?
I always. Day don’t have to talk (max!), and then make the first step. I do not like to dwell in negative emotions. I don’t care who was right and who was wrong, to talk first anyway I begin. Sasha is a pretty blunt person, and I’m more of a diplomat. —
The budget in common?
Yes. Discuss only very very large purchase. And so I don’t need to ask permission from Sasha to go to the store. Do believe that I’m a pretty frugal person – I won’t spend a million on your bag. Different, of course, there are situations, but in General I’m not wasteful.—
Back to the tragedy in your family. How did you manage to survive the death of the father?
It was the biggest stress for me in my life. I didn’t know how this condition might affect the child. You can’t not drink or pill to eat. To get out of this state I couldn’t for very long. Passed through various psychological stages: rejection of this fact, aggression, humility, acceptance… it’s just Impossible to take on and realize was a man – and here it is not.—
Your worldview has changed?
Of course. We always think that man represents something important and big. But in the end it turns out that all of its activities, projects, plans are worthless one day. Perhaps that is why the first time I had apathy, I could not communicate with his son. For me, the birth and death mixed in one. In parallel, we had to support his mother and brother, time for Sasha and son was not simple. But at some point I realized that if now do not take himself in hand, no one for me not to be able to do. Started to return loved ones back to life. My 13-year-old brother was a real man. Didn’t even see that he was crying. Amazing wise and adult person – years. Tell him everything, only he can give the most accurate advice or just to listen. —
And your mom could not handle the stress?
It is very hard when you live with a man, and then he suddenly dies. Sasha decided to support it gave the car. Eventually sold, but it was important at least to do something to dramatically change the person to a positive emotion. At this moment there is no account of money, you just need to give at least some counterweight to the worries. Dad was able to leave her enough money that mom could live and feel comfortable. —
As you have been informed of the death of his father?
I was at the meeting. Me and the people with whom I was, suddenly began to come messages of condolence… Cause of dad’s death was a heart attack. We did not understand, participate in investigations, respond to idiotic articles in the media. The person no longer exists and this is pointless.
Father your dream?
Sometimes. Can’t say that often. When cancer became my mom’s dad, my grandfather, I dreamed more and more. But once he had, as the father comes and says, mom is sick with cancer. I woke up in a cold sweat thinking: “Surely now it turns out, and this.” Checked out mom. Thank God, all right. —
The psychologist did not address?
My mom and I visited a specialist. Julia Baranovskaya advised us a very good psychologist. She was talking to her when she had difficult life situation. We did that too, helped. —
Milan, you were not the easiest relationship with my dad…
Well, Yes. The older I got, the more they were improving. In my childhood he was rarely at home. I remember one time dad gave me the pink Panther in a black jumpsuit. This jumpsuit fit me! And in first class on some occasion I even acted in it… After my father died, I became more independent, matured in a single moment. He gave me the understanding that you can only rely on yourself. Another said: “you should never expect to be thanked. Everything you do – I do for myself.” Although my work is somewhat refutes this phrase… Work for him was paramount. I brother character in it a lot more than in Mamou. We always thought dad’s model is very right.
Milan almost all the time you’re giving charity. How we got here?
After graduation I immediately got married. Sasha long time and has a lot of help, but never voiced it to the wider public. Once we were in the same orphanage, where he saw: they are lacking funding. My first thought was to help yourself, but in such cases, you will never be able to track where the money goes actually. Decided to register the Fund “Stars for children”. That all this reaches such a scale not even imagined.—
It turns out, that Sasha brings you to what do you do now?
We can say that it was. I started to do charity work at the age of 21. It is unlikely I would have figured it out at this age. On the other hand, I’ve always had good organizational skills, so it worked. —
That feel when you manage to collect a large sum of money and give it to the needy?
In the beginning, of course, was euphoric: thanks to the financial possibilities, you can change the destiny of a child. Now it is work: hard, demanding, important. Certainly, I am pleased that people trust us. We have to that all the necessary prerequisites – we have twice won presidential grants, arranged in different cities charity races and other sports, now we have to deal with the consultation of children from the regions.—
Never had any desire to quit?
I argue so: if you’re in something you got involved, already responsible for it, can’t just take everything and throw. But at some point these thoughts, I really visited. Very amusing comments on social media: “Oh, this posh [charity] evening sunset, I would have donated the money to children.” People don’t know what works is to find for each event is the number of partners and sponsors, so they covered the cost of it.—
How much money you collect at these auctions?
The first helped to collect about eight million rubles. For me it was amazing. In the future, the budgets have only increased, allowing you to assist more actively.
What recent events would you highlight?
There were four of them: the bachelorette party (this is a new project), a charity event in our restaurant for mom and Sasha’s birthday. At the end felt so empty. The day was engaged in the organization, coordination, answering endless calls and messages. —
By the way, how was the party in honor of her husband’s birthday?
I will not hide that many things have managed to arrange for barter and partners. If we all paid for themselves, this would have resulted in a lot of money, because the holiday was really ambitious. There were about 50 people: relatives, colleagues and friends. Known: Alexander Revva, Mikhail Boyarsky, Marcel with his wife, Lev Leshchenko, “Ivanushki”… One of the most memorable gifts from loved ones was a black and white photograph of the first membership of “Zenit”.